One of the ways I practice with my own trauma is to let it be, not try to fix it.
Trauma must be respected because it is part of our precious humanness.
We can experience wanting to fight or flee or just numbness.
We may experience the paralysis of not knowing what to do. This is our biological system in action. It is normal and there is nothing wrong. In fact, you might say something is right if we are experiencing this fear, this anger, this numbness, this heartbreak…
And it is very important here to understand the point of anger in Buddhism.
Anger is a normal, perfect human experience that you may and I may be having in daily life, but especially at this moment. The point of this is not to lose ourselves. Not to lose our sense of oneness with ourselves, not to lose our sense of loving ourselves, not to lose ourselves in fragmentation. And it could be anger, it could be fear, it could be numbness, but the point of practice is not to lose ourselves.
We don’t push away suffering. Feel every ounce of suffering through your whole body, but don’t drown in it either.
And that’s the great practice of my life.”