Each of us come into our partners life for a season, reason and a lifetime.
We hope that we will resonate with each other’s views, reviews and live a happy life. This resonance in vibration can change when one partner traverses a spiritual path while the other is still hankering after another. I have heard stories of people where the complain is, “ I don’t think I can live with my spouse, I feel I am moving spiritually while he is not.” This may be a fact or a figment of ones imaginative growth.
Moving spiritually involves certain behavioural changes:
Open minded ness
Embrace challenges as opportunities
Less ego -centric
Action rather than Result oriented.
Self -worth is not connected to financial security.
Choose love over fear.
My husband gives emphasis to physical activity while I am physically challenged. Jogging, lifting a dumbbell and cycling invigorates him. The thought of it is boring for me. He has great physical prowess and is very disciplined. I admire this single pointedness in him.
I have a different routine to develop single pointedness. I write and read voraciously. My work which is more mental and requires concentration may not require physical exercise but is equally tiring. I get my energy from meditation and astral travel.
Does this make one more spiritual than another? No, it does not. All of us take different routes to reach the ultimate gate of Nirvana, just like there are many routes to your home. Is there a short cut to it, maybe and maybe not. It depends on how good a student you are!
To consider yourself more spiritual than your spouse is a folly. My husband manages accounts diligently, helps around the house efficiently and has his hobbies which he pursues effectively. He is caring, affectionate and kind. I appreciate all these qualities and know that there may be times when he may shout, yell and even speak rudely, but does that mean he is not spiritual!
I may be doing spiritual work uplifting myself by myself and helping and encouraging others to do the same, does that mean I am spiritual !
To judge another as being less than you. To consider your work as better than another’s. To think that meditation is better than jogging or you reading Eckart Tole and him watching Republic TV, makes you a front runner in this spiritual path is a fallacy.
Spirituality is about embracing differences in each other while each pursuing their own.
Spirituality is about allowing one to taste wine while you drink nimbu -pani. Spirituality is about knowing that the person you married is actually the best choice for you. What makes him or her that, is for you to find out. Take this three question test.
- What does your spouse provide for you which makes your life comfortable? ( physically, mentally, socially and emotionally)!
- What compulsion makes you stay with your spouse? ( Social stigma, Children’s security, Personal safety etc)
- If not the above, then “ What have you still not learnt ( values, qualities ) which your spouse is demonstrating for you to learn.
I have to learn discipline in routine, exercise and financial acumen. My husband is demonstrating this to me.
We are all on this spiritual path which is about loving without expressing it, caring without conditions and sharing the space without results.
करिए और करते रहिए, जतायें नहीं